Cup of Coffee Story: The Unfaithful
- vivyjoy
- Nov 7, 2017
- 8 min read
I was thinking what to blog, what to post when I bump into one of my blogs through my dashboard and I found a perfect story I can share with everybody. This is a true to life story, we all hate CHEATERS, being cheated on, knowing you're not the number 1. Looking back at it, I can never be more happier than I am right now meeting my husband. Things turn out better than I though it was and if it weren't for womenly guts and intuition I won't know it's already happening. I mean not all the time it works, but we have to have a proper basis to prove that it does. Being cheated on is not a good experience for anybody, man and woman. We all deserve good relationship, love, affection from our "the one", but to know that they also giving it to another one that you don't know about, that's totally unacceptable. Here's my unfaithful story....
Date: August, 2017
"This is a story about how infidelity ruins a relationship how it affects the person who went through it. I'm not disclosing anyone's name as respect to other parties. However, at the end of the day we all have our freedom to say what we want to say, because there's a lot of people who also under go the same situation as I do, so this is also something that helps people realize that it is not our lost at all. The good thing about it is that I didn't end up marrying the guy which I am very thankful for, but now I know how it felt for people who are married or have a relationship and their partners cheated on them, it doesn't matter if it's a man or woman. I only read it on Facebook or people share their own way, videos, story how they break it up to their partners until I experience it.
This is me personally sharing my experience of how I found out and caught my ex-boyfriend cheating on me. When I found out about it, everything started to make sense. I'm the type of person who remembers everything, I manage to connect all the dots and then that's it, light bulb! I'll tell you how did I found out he is cheating on me and how I manage to cope up with the situation. Well, obviously it is not easy, never at all! When you found out that the person you love and trusted cheated on you. Shattered me into pieces! I went through a lot, those times that we're working in the same place and I see him there. I am so in denial at first, but one way or another you got to let it go! Here I am stronger than I was and have the courage to make this blog and share to everybody what that guy did and what I've been through, because of him.
I went back to the ship last August 19, 2016. Excited, because I'll see him again. We work in the ship and we both sign on the same day, coming back from 2 months vacation. We didn't manage to spend it together. Where is he from? Croatia. That day, we took a photo on my Polaroid camera before we get on board. It is the same day that I found out he cheated on me. Don't get me wrong I am way over with it long before. It will be a part of a good laugh memory and not a pain in the heart, it is still something that I wish it didn't happen to me. So, to people who's going through the same thing, know that you're not the only one and not alone in this kind of fight.
Finding out that my partner cheated on me is beyond words, it's awful and I go through it in a different way. I'm in denial! I knew that there's something up with him. He changes suddenly, all our plans, he usual answer "we will do it..of course.. yes please.." to "we will see... and we will talk about it" In just 2 months of being far away from each other. That seems odd of course, especially when we're planning for the future! We got engaged!
I was saying about the power of intuition, I can guarantee you that 90% whatever is your gut tells you go for it! At first I shove it off, I trusted him and he always say he won't do that, because he won't be able to sleep at night. I have some doubts, again I shove it off. I felt something wrong, though I have a clue, but not until proven and it is unexpected, or in reality I'm just in denial about it that he is indeed fooling around and have another woman. I have loved him so much and built a future with him, everything was great we do have some ups and downs but only to my disappointment the man I thought I loved and knew cheated on me NOT ONLY ONCE, BUT TWICE. YES! I FOUND OUT HE CHEATED ON ME TWICE! I'll tell you that in my part 2 blog. There's more than the story I thought I knew. Many more was revealed when I found out that he is been cheating on me for the last year since we got together. Can you imagine that? Well it is already scientifically proven that ONCE A CHEATER, WILL ALWAYS BE A CHEATER. Unless otherwise. (Will continue this one on pt 2)
How did I found out? I manage to get some more evidence of his infidelity when we got together. The fact we slept together not knowing that makes me sick, he is fucking psycho! The sick part too is that my cheating ex is cheating as well with her (his new fiance) through me. I'll tell you more about that. I know fiance? girlfriend? doing me and doing her? It's fucking retarded.
Let me share to everybody about me and my ex. We both work on a passenger ship, we've met last year around May 2015 out of circumstances and we totally hit it off ever since that faithful day we're inseparable. Which he said he is 100% single, okay! I can say that I was so naive that time falling for someone like him, but we can't control that and I didn't know what is coming for me until that unfaithful day. He said he is single and he broke up with his Croatian girlfriend before he met me, before he went on board. The bad part I BELIEVED IN HIM. He is being charming and looks so kind and trustworthy. The relationship with him was amazing, there's no denying about that. He is fun, he treated me well; he always say he is mine and I'm his and for us to stay like every guys say he will never cheat on me. Just so you know, Cheating on the ship is very common, but lets not go on that part. He said that because it is something that he cannot do and he won't be able to do because he doesn't want to go to bed thinking he did something against the relationship and ruined it. Basically, he doesn't want to be hunted and labeled CHEATER. The bad part? I TRUSTED HIM every single words he say.
I'll continue with the story, a little after we're started dating about a week now. He asked me to moved in his cabin, so I did and then I saw a photo of a girl and ask him who is she, he said it was HIS SISTER. I was like hmmm sister? Well the resemblance was far away and I'm thought probably that is how Croatian culture is. you know to be too close, like really, really close. Eventually, I'm cleaning up the place and I found more photo of him and her "THE SISTER" he told me about, but it is odd because he is kissing his sister lips to lips, and they have so many sweet photo, which is by the way beyond sister and brotherly love. Obviously, it is not his sister and he lied to me about it. I confronted him about the photos and with the sad face he told me the truth at least most of the part of it is true. Then I remember when I moved in there he still have it on display, why there's still photos of them in his cabin when he said they already broke up? LIE # 1. He manage to get out of it, he remove all the photos and told me he will throw it out in the incinerator. I said okay, I am so naive. We make-up for it and moved on. After a month or so being together from that first encounter, June 2015 he drop another news to me that his ex-girlfriend got pregnant. Shocked! I didn't ask how or when, but if they're no longer together before he gets on board how did he manage to impregnate her? There's only one thing they're still together during his last vacation before he met me, but I didn't know it that time, or I guess they're still together and he is trying to get rid of me. By the way, this girl I'm talking about is different from the girl he cheated on me with. There's 3 of us just to sum it up!
Moving on, I left him immediately 1 week from that encounter we talked and he said that he was devastated about me leaving or that's what I think. We talked and he wanted me back and again me being so naive and good, I still have feelings for him, with hesitation I went back with him. He told me he will deal with his "ex" because he wasn't sure if its even his, LIE #2. He even told me before that his ex lost the baby, but theirs a twist, I found out that his ex never really got pregnant or lost the baby. He lied about it! Can you believe that? Founding that out disgusted me and totally lost all the respect I have for this man.
So fast forward in between those happenings and before I found that out, we manage to make it up and he chose me over her. We got back together and everything was a bliss. But I always felt there is something wrong. December 2015, I received a message from that girl telling me he is still together. She send me their photos, emails, their chats and conversations to prove me that they're still together, the dates are there. He was on vacation that time, while I'm in the ship. I messaged him immediately sending all those stuff to him which he completely denied about it and he said that she was crazy, He said SHE WAS CRAZY and don't ever believer in her. I was so skeptical that I didn't believed her that time, when it's already too late. He made a lot of excuses that I can't tell if he is lying or not. He manage to talk me out of it and tell me to ignore her because she is just making it up and those photos and other stuff are old and so on. Again, I BELIEVED HIM and TRUSTED HIM when he say that they are over, LIE #3. Due to all those happenings, It was a rough road with him and I started to doubt him in amidst of it all, but I tried to trust him as much as I can. He say a lot of promises and sweet words that made me fall for it, he made me believe into something that is not there. A cheating narcissistic (narcissistic personality disorder) liar!
So there's more story on that, but I will not disclose any more here. I'll make another part 2 of this story, so look out for it. In conclusion of my part 1 story, my relationship with him was tough like a roller coaster ride of deceit and lies especially if you're working on a cruise ship. My contract is longer than his so he goes on vacation ahead of me. That is where things I didn't foresee.
To be continued...
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